Day 7: Can't Believe It's Been a Week Already!

Seven days ago today, we walked into a little office where I sat anxiously as I waited for my son to come in. As I sat there, I wondered if he would love us like we love him. I had prepared my heart as much as I could that he might not be ready to receive all of the affection I had to offer. I sat back with tears in my eyes as he entered the room. As difficult as it was, I just sat there and took everything in. I wanted to jump up and wrap him in my arms right away, but I was afraid that I would scare him. So I sat for what seemed like an eternity, but after watching the movie play back, only amounted to a minute or so. When I finally got up to get him, it was a magical moment. You could hear my voice shaking and cracking and my body was shaking all over. I was nervous and excited all at once. Then the magic happened. He smiled at me for the first time. I swear, that was one of the single most wonderful moments of my entire life. He  flashed me a smile that God knew that I needed to see and he has not stopped since. Everyday I go to pick him up, he smiles at me with the smile of an angel.

Today when we went to pick him up, we were met with a prescription from the doctor. She had been there to see him and written him a prescription for four medications! We went to the pharmacy to get them for him even though we have no idea what they were. We just hope that they make him feel better. He is such a little trooper. Even when he is really sick, he still smiles and laughs for us.

So far, just about every experience we have had here has been positive. There are some things though that have broken my heart. Today was one of those days where I walked away in tears. They were not just quiet tears. They were run to the bathroom when you get home and sob, tears. My heart was absolutely torn in two. I honestly don't think I will ever be quite the same again. Because I chose to keep my blog public while we are in country, I am not at liberty to write about some things, this being one of them. I will, however blog about it when we get home and Quinton is safe and sound because I think that everyone needs to know about it.

Quinton was not feeling the best today, but we still managed to get a few good pictures :)

Ahhhh! I almost forgot the best part of the day. Quinton reached for me today! We have been trying to teach him that if he reaches for us, we will pick him up. He is not used to anyone fulfilling his needs when he cries or reaches, so he pretty much just doesn't do it. Today when he reached his arms out for me I squealed! He reached for Brian too. We passed him back and forth several times and clapped and cheered for his new "trick". Love him bunches!

For Quinton to Remember Someday: I Walked Through Poo For You :P

So, there's no way-absolutely no way that I can describe the smell that we woke up to yesterday and today. Someones septic system (or lack there of?) was spewing out of the ground and into the street. It smelled like sewage and dead animal and some type of propane gas all at once and it was EVERYWHERE. The great news is that I was wearing flip flops for my morning walk to visit Quinton. Mmmmmm Yummy! Gross, I know but if you're reading this and you really wanna know what's going on-this is it. So, to my dear sweet Quinton whom I would do absolutely anything for-please always remember that Mommy walked through liquid poo to get to you LOL. And all you can do is laugh.

Once we got through that lovely mess, we had  great visit again. We dressed him in shorts and a
t-shirt, but it was not long before a nurse came around and imitated his cough and that we must go back and get him long pants, long sleeves, and a sweater. We did it because they asked us too, but if you know me well, you have probably already guessed that I was rolling my eyes the whole time (after I flashed her a "sure, no problem" cheesy grin. He was a hoot at morning and afternoon visits. He absolutely comes alive and it is so beautiful to see. We cannot wait until the day that we get to walk through the big green gates of the orphanage forever! Honestly, there is not much more to tell today. We are just eating up every moment with our little guy. Here are some shots from today's visit:

Day 5 and a Court Date!

Well, it is happening...The days are all starting to run together and I have to think really hard about what day of the week it is. In the world of Reece's Rainbow we describe it like the movie Groundhog Day because every day you wake up and do the same thing over an over. To us though, it is not necessarily bad. We love every minute we get to spend with Quinton. The moments are precious. We are constantly learning new things about him and watching him develop in front of our eyes. It is amazing! 

Today we were assigned a judge and for reasons that I cannot discuss on a public forum, we had to wait until July 5th  for a court date. We were hoping for something next week like the other families, but we are just so grateful that we were able to get a date before the shut down. (Did I mention that Marina rocks?) 

So, here is a rough estimate of how the rest of our trip should go (don't forget that nothing here goes according to plans):

Court on July 5th

July 6th -10 day wait period starts

July 16th-gotcha day (where we bust Quinton out of the orphanage forever!)

July 17th-take train back to the capital city 

July 18th-start embassy paperwork to get Quinton a visa, passport, and medical exam (this could take about a week, but hopefully shorter)

Last full week in July sometime-FLY HOME!!!

Today when we took Quinton back to his nannies, I sat him down on a bench to take off his outside clothes and his whole demeanor changed. He knew that he was back with his groupa and was probably going to spend the rest of the day in his playpen and his little face got so sad. It was pitiful. He became a completely different little boy-and then I saw it in his eyes. He slipped into this zone and completely spaced out. This must be how he copes everyday. He goes into his own little world and just stays there. He is not aware of what is going on around him and he just lays and does nothing. Nothing at all. I know how ill I get when cabin fever sets in after about 2 days and I cannot imagine how it feels to do nothing day in and day out. My little guy is 16 months old, but he has experienced so many "firsts" this past week. This is the first time he has had someone love on him so much, and the first time he has had someone to cheer him on as he reaches developmental milestones. I hate giving him back everyday, especially when I know that I am giving him back only to succomb to his own little world. We are only staying about 10 minutes (walking distance) away and I want to sneak him back with me so badly it breaks my heart. I have to force myself not to think about it, but instead to focus on how much brighter his little eyes light up every time he realizes that we came back. I keep waiting for the day that he will see us in the doorway and reach for me-his mommy.

Day 4...

We were so hoping to hear about a judge today, but Marina, our facilitator (who rocks, by the way!) called to let us know that the computers were down system wide so we could not be assigned a judge :( She was able to submit our papers to the SDA for approval though. Time is precious right now, but at least we are taking baby steps. We will take baby steps over no steps at all. Marina said that she would call tomorrow and again on Saturday in hopes of getting a judge. Saturday is a working day because Monday and Tuesday the courts close down for Constitution Day. Basically this means that we may be assigned a judge by Friday or Saturday, but if we don't hear anything by then, we will not know until at least Wednesday. Enough about court systems and what not and on to the good stuff.

Quinton is a mess. He is so stinkin cute and is becoming really mobile. Today he was rolling and army crawling and climbing all over us. We loved every second of it! Sometimes when we are holding him he starts looking around to make sure we are still there. When he sees us, his little eyes light up and he smiles so big! Oh, I can't get enough of him.

When we went to drop him off with his groupa this morning, they were outside in their little playpens. The nannies trust us enough now to let us interact with some of the other kids. You should have seen their faces. You would have thought that it was Christmas morning. They laughed and smiled and held their arms out to us. I wan to bring them all home. Somebody please come rescue these precious babies! I will help you fund raise :) No, really-take a look at them on Reece's Rainbow. Not everyone can adopt, but everyone can help. You can sign up to be a prayer warrior and pray one of these babies home. Or you can sign up to be a Christmas warrior at Christmas time and help raise their grant so that they are more likely to find a family. You can even sponsor a family who is going to adopt one of these little ones. Or maybe you are interested in adopting one...If you are, please let me know and I can put you in contact with someone to help you get started. These kids need a home so badly. I have read about it on other peoples blogs and now I have seen it in person-The kids see you coming and they  reach out their arms and yell "mama! papa!" For one reason or another, they were left without a mommy and daddy of their own and they know it and it absolutely breaks my heart :(

Sorry-had to get that off my chest. On a much happier note, here are pictures from today:

His Buzz Lightyear pajamas fit! Yay! I have been waiting months to get these on him!

By the way...my baby boy was wearing pink panties today when I picked him up. Just wait until we get him out of here. Never. Ever. Again. LOL

Day 3 With Our Angel :)

Today was incredible! I can't believe how much Quinton is changing already. It is amazing what a little one on one attention will do. The first day we met him, he was so quiet. He had difficulty even holding his little head up for more that a few seconds at a time. Today he did so good. He trunk muscles and neck control are improving every time we see him.

When we went to take him back after our morning visit, I was surprised when someone greeted me in english. She invited us in. Usually when we come to pick him up or drop him off, we have to wait outside of the door, but today there were missionaries there who were able to translate for us. They told us that the nannies are so grateful that we are taking Quinton home to the United States where he can have a good life. The nanny who brought Quinton in for us to see for the first time said that she could tell by the look on my face and the tears in my eyes that he was meant to be ours. 

The nannies invited us in and the missionaries asked if we could take pictures and interact with some of the other kids.I got to hold Leeza and Trenton who have a mama of their own working hard to come get them! It was so sweet. Leeza is considered a "laying down" baby and spends most of her time in a crib on her back. I was so excited to be able to cuddle on her and whisper in her sweet ear that her mama is on the way. We made some great contacts with one of the missionaries who lives locally and it is my hope that we will be able to work something out through her so that we can continue to provide for the kids that we have to leave behind :( She has been coming here since 1997 and has good contacts with the orphanage director. They offered to come pick us up one night after our afternoon visit with Quinton and show us around the city and take us out to eat. It was such a blessing to meet them and I can't wait to see them again.

This afternoon we went to the market and bought a blanket to lay down on the ground so that Quinton could have some tummy time. He loved it. As much as he likes being held and cuddled, I think it was getting hard for him to stay still for 4 hours a day. He is such an angel and absolutely beautiful. He is going to be a perfect fit for our family. We love him so much already and we would go to the moon and back for him. I think we are going to have to turn our office into a spare bedroom for my dad. He is never going to want to leave once he gets his hands on Quinton. 

Keep praying for our judge and court date. We should hear something tomorrow (hopefully). Also, we got word today that the SDA is not handing out appointments any more. They are shutting down on July 11th and any families who have not gotten appointments yet will have to wait until the new adoption ministry is built. This breaks my heart. This could have easily been us. We faced shut down several times and by the grace of God, we made it. Other families will have to wait which is hard enough for them, but think about the kids-some with significant health issues. They will have to sit and wait another 3 months for someone to come rescue them. Please pray that God will sustain their little bodies as they wait and for patience and peace for their families during the rebuilding process. 

Enough about me. I know this is what you are really looking for:

Love him!

He wasn't too sure about this move LOL

 Sweetheart

Funny Face :)

I don't think I will ever get enough of that smile.

Whatever you do, don't tell the nannies we let him sleep. He's been really congested and rhaspy and I just couldn't resist letting him fall asleep in my arms for the first time.

 

Holding his Daddy's hand

Too stinkin cute!

And Now For the Blog Post You’ve All Been Waiting For…

We met him!!! I thought this day would never arrive! I may be a little partial, but he is absolutely the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my entire life! We took an overnight train to Quinton’s region last night and arrived at 7:00 this morning. As soon as we got off of the train, it was go, go, go until 6:00 pm. We had to go to the social worker, notary (lawyer), and visit with the head doctor among other things. We went into the head doctor’s office and we were given some more information about him. We were told that they would bring him in momentarily and every time that door cracked, my heart jumped. My entire body was shaking and my hands and arms were numb. Finally after about the fourth knock, they brought him in. I was in absolute awe. (Yes-I cried like a baby and I am not ashamed to admit it.) I went and picked him up and it was love at first sight. We were only able to visit for about 20 minutes since we had lots more paperwork to do to get the adoption started. We were all over town for the rest of the day, but we made it back in time for an hour and a half visit this evening. It was honestly one of the best days of my life. Please, please pray that we get a court date before July 11. The SDA will be dismantling then and we must have a court date by then. This is very urgent and we would appreciate any and all prayers. We want to bring  Quinton home as soon as possible. We feel truly blessed to have such supportive friends and family and we honestly can’t thank you enough. I will leave you all with what you have been waiting for….pictures of course:

Right now Quinton is about 17 pounds and 29 inches tall. We brought 12 and 18 month outfits with us and one 6-9 month outfit from a friend. Guess which one fits??? The one and only 6-9 month outfit we have. It fits him perfectly, so I expect he will be able to wear his 12 month clothes in no time, but for now it looks like we will have to buy him a few outfits :)

Yesterday's Adventures

Yesterday we met up with the McFarland's (a family from Alabama also adopting through Reece's Rainbow). They are staying in an apartment a little closer to Independence Square than we do, so they were able to show us around. We met for lunch at a little cafeteria and ordered pizza. Take a look-it was much more "normal" than our last attempt at pizza:

After lunch we walked to Independence Square. It was really fun. There was a lady there giving an outdoor concert and lots of vendors on the street. There are people dressed up as different characters that will try and get you to take a picture with them (using your own personal camera) and then try and get you to pay them for the picture! Luckily, the McFarland's were able to warn us before hand. We walked around for quite a while just sight seeing and enjoying a new experience with American company :)

Here, cars and people play chicken fight on the roads. Sidewalks apparently are made for driving and parking on and if you are going to cross the road, you had better run...no joke. There are very busy intersections that are too big to cross, so you have to go underground to cross the street. These little underground passageways are actually underground malls. They are filled with little Ukranian kiosk type shops and most of them lead to actual little malls with food courts. We walked all around them yesterday. On the way back to the place where we needed to catch a cab, we stopped for a soft served ice cream cone. I got cherry vanilla. It was amazing! We were exhausted to we headed back to our apartment and called it a day.

Today is Father's Day and I think this is the first time in 27 years that I have not been with my dad :( It makes me pretty homesick just thinking about it, but I know it will be worth it to him and to me when I bring him his first grandson! We are overjoyed that we will be on an overnight train tonight (what an incredible Father's Day gift for Brian) on the way to meet our son! As excited as I am, though, I cannot help but think about all of the people who struggle with this day-the people who have lost their fathers, the people who never had a father figure in their lives, and for people like Brian and I who have wanted to be parents for so long it hurts. Hang in there. Special thoughts and prayers to you all. Love you guys!

Here are just a few pictures from yesterday:

Happy Father's Day to my dad!